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Welcome!

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Before You Begin

Get a sense of where you are

  1. Reconstruct your last 24 hours: Download journal page

  2. Take the Positivity Self-Test by Barbara L. Fredrickson, PhD: Download the PDF or take the test online.

(Save your positivity ratio in a safe place for later!)


Core Practices

 

Here are the 5 practices developed and researched by Shawn Achor. You will be aiming to complete these practices each day for 21 days.

How you work with these is UP TO YOU. You can work with all 5 if that seems doable, or you can pick one or two to take on for this challenge. You are also free to modify them in a way that makes this more fun and manageable for you. Have fun with it!

 
 
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Get Your Things Together

 

This is the heart of the challenge: to complete these practices daily for 21 days. If you live with others, you can also multiply the positive effects by getting others involved. Share your gratitudes around the dinner table!

Download and print tools to help remind you of the practices and keep track of your completion: Download the Journal Page & Tracker

You can print out 21 copies of the Journal Page to write on, or if you already have an established journal, you can just use this as a reference sheet.

For the Tracker Page, you can post these practices in places where you will see them, and use the tracker to mark off what you’ve completed. If you are a perfectionist, beware! :) There’s no need to use these tools as another “to do” or a stressor. Let’s keep this easy, and fun! If it seems intimidating, pare it down, and if you miss a day, give yourself a hug and know that tomorrow is a new day. <3

If you’d like a short (3-minute) meditation to begin with, here is mine!

 

Make things more fun…

Add interaction & Sharing if you like!

Join in on social media

As you go, it’s fun to share your journey with friends online. If this is fun for you, post photos of your gratitudes, tell about a Random Act of Kindness that was a delight, share about how this is affecting your perspective, and so on.

And when you do, I would LOOOOOOVE to see your posts! Please use the hashtag #joyfullivingchallenge and tag me at @weflourishandbloom on Instagram, or tag me on Facebook. You can also follow my IG and FB to see my posts about my journey, and search the hashtag #joyfullivingchallenge to see what other people post.

Tell the group about it!

If you’re not so into social media, but you’d still like to share, you can also enter your gratitudes via this little form. Then you can check out all the group’s responses on this spreadsheet.

 

Email Me!

I’m interested in knowing how this goes, and you can always email me at hello@katiedutcher.com or just reply to emails you receive from me.


Resources & Inspirations

Podcast Interview with Shawn Achor all about the research behind these practices.

Podcast Interview with Brother David Steindl-Rast on Gratitude


 

Great Books:

Positivity, Barbara L. Fredrickson, PhD

The Happiness Advantage, Shawn Achor

Happiness is an Inside Job, Sylvia Boorstein

The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin

Atomic Habits, James Clear

 
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“Sometimes I go about in pity for myself,

and all the while, a great wind is bearing me across the sky.”

—Ojibwa saying

 

It’s a long story…

Way back in 2010, I was living abroad and going through a rather tough time. At that time, I was lucky enough to get ahold of the book, Positivity, by Barbara L. Fredrickson, PhD, a researcher in the field of positive psychology. This book, along with The Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin, set me on a serious journey to shift my perspective… and it WORKED! Part of this journey saw me beginning to meditate and learn about mindfulness, which has changed my whole life for the better. (I wrote more about this journey here.)

I have been really happy to dive back into Positivity in preparing for this challenge, and what follows here is mainly my notes on Chapters 9 & 10 of Fredrickson’s book, all about decreasing negativity and increasing positivity. Along the way, you will find loads of resources to help you dive deeper or put these tips into practice. Many of the journaling activities are worksheets that I put together based on her questions and recommendations in the book, and other resources I added from what I use and love.


Ways to Decrease Negativity

Disrupt Rumination: Awareness —> healthy distraction (neutral or something that lifts your mood)

*Journal: My Go-To Distractions

Dispute negative thinking: Negativity is a slippery slope, with emotions and thoughts feeding on each other. Pause and examine…

  • What is really true? Is this the only way to look at things?

  • What am I not noticing? What am I downplaying in favor of negativity?

  • What would the voice of kindness and gentleness offer?

Practice mindfulness: Notice this thought or experience. Acknowledge and accept that it is here. Know that it is passing through and cannot last.

Assess your media diet: What are you taking in? Transform social media by using it for connection rather than mindless scrolling or comparison.

*Resource: How to Break Up With Your Phone by Catherine Price

Be aware of interactions: Interacting in habitual way vs. intentionally. Having expectations for what will happen vs. being open. Gossip, sarcasm vs. sincerity. Perhaps beginning to see difficult people as a teacher in disguise...

Defuse negativity landmines: Notice your patterns. Investigate. What tends to bring you down? Who? When? How can this effect be reduced or modified?

*Journal: Negativity Landmines


Ways to Invest in Positivity

Look for positive meaning: What is the gift in this? How might I reframe or re-interpret it?

Practice gratitude: (This challenge!)

Savor positivity: Slow down and take in all the aspects of positive experiences. Let them make an impact.

*Resources from Rick Hanson:

Practices: Taking in the Good | "I'm alright right now"

Article: Wire your brain for happiness

Video: TED Talk

Find ways to be kind: Helping others helps us!

Seek to connect: People who flourish have warm and trusting relationships with other people.

 *App: Fabriq - Keep track of connections and remind yourself to reach out.

*Journal: Connection & Community

Meditate mindfully: Build capacity to be aware and present, which helps with all of these other points.

*App: Insight Timer - Lots of free guided meditations and a customizable bell timer

*Katie’s meditation library

Follow your passions: Create time to play and to enter “flow state,” being fully engaged and enjoying yourself.

Dream about the future: Visualize future successes, meeting goals.

Apply your strengths: Find ways to use your gifts, and you’ll flourish.

* Resource: Strengths Finder

Connect with nature: Take in beauty, and cultivate curiosity and wonder.

*Journal: Nearby Nature (inspired by Positivity, by Barbara L. Fredrickson, PhD)

Open your mind: Approach with curiosity, nonjudgement, welcoming what is here

Open your heart: Slow down, let yourself be sincere and heartfelt

* Meditation: Lovingkindness


Bonus Tools!

*Blog posts: Let Joy Win & Flourishing

*Journal: Positivity Portfolio Summary & Worksheets (from Positivity, by Barbara L. Fredrickson, PhD)

*Journal: Smile Sparkers (from The Joy Diet, by Martha Beck)

*Journal: Sensory Delights (from The Joy Diet, by Martha Beck)

 
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 Joyfully Onward

Resilience Resources

*Resources: Rick Hanson on Resilience | Shawn Achor on Resilience

* Meditation on Rest

* Blog + Meditation: When Silence & Stillness Call to You… Listen

 

Moving Forward

We learn by reflecting on our experience, so I invite you to spend some time reflecting on this challenge and what it was like for you.

*Journal: Reflection

If you like, you can also do an ending assessment (this is especially helpful if you already did this at the beginning of the challenge.

  1. Reconstruct your last 24 hours: Download journal page

  2. Take the Positivity Self-Test by Barbara L. Fredrickson, PhD: Download the PDF or take the test online.